As doulas who have witnessed many beautiful and moving caesarean births, it saddens us that caesarean birth is not as celebrated as a “natural” or vaginal birth is, and that mothers are made to feel ashamed or that they have somehow failed for having this type of birth.
Carol Anne and I are always saying, “it takes two to birth and it’s the little one inside that calls the shots!”. How can we control how a baby fairs in pregnancy or birth? Even when we are equipped with different techniques, birthing positions, follow certain "plans", or make medical decisions that statistically lower the chances of having a caesarean section - there are no guarantees that the family will have the birth experience that they expect or hope for.
Instead of feeling disappointed, depressed, ashamed or in doubt of themselves or their body's abilities, our wish for our clients is that they embrace the beauty of a baby arriving into the world with a caesarean birth.
Wondering how to make a scheduled or unplanned caesarean birth more family-centred?
Here are a few suggestions (of course, if there is an emergency some of these may not be able to happen):
Some additional ways to prepare for a planned caesarean:
Get creative and celebrate!
This is the day that your child is being born into the world and it should be celebrated! Caesarean birth IS birth, and while it is not everyone's first choice, embrace the possibility that it CAN be beautiful.
Read about Sarah & Kris' caesarean birth story here: