Congratulations! You have a baby on the way! Your emotions are probably running rampant as you process the news that you’re about to become a parent. Don’t worry, it’s normal. You can help yourself remain calm by preparing your life and home for your baby’s arrival, and our tips will show you how.
When you’re a single parent, you have a lot on your plate. Parenting with a partner is challenging enough, but living life as a single parent is even tougher. In fact, single parents—both moms and dads—wake up every morning to new challenges. Being a single dad comes with its own unique challenges, and takes courage, patience, and compassion to get through the day. It’s not always easy to stay positive. Here are some common ways to keep moving forward on your single-parent journey.
A common barrier to babywearing for some parents may be the huge market of baby carriers. There are so many brands, types, price points etc., that some parents may feel overwhelmed and not know where to begin.
First and foremost it is important to know that the type of baby carrier, or the brand of baby carrier is not at all important.
We have watched your coming hence
Since your rising from the sea.
We have traced your form and shape
And tracked the speed of your approach
With wise and careful machines.
I saw you descending
On the night she was born
to the place you had feared
where I could not follow.
Your partner has told you she’s pregnant, congratulations! Welcome to the wonderful world of fatherhood. Take a beat and let that sink in, you’re going to be a dad. When you’re ready it’s time to get to work with the Top 5 Things Dads Need to Do Before Baby Arrives.
I'm a 31 year old man, and I just got doula'd so hard!
Doulas are amazing, let's just get that out of the way. In the spirit of full disclosure, I am married to one. You may think that I could be biased because of that, but in that vain let me say this also: If you aren't going to hire a doula you should at least try to marry one!
Those first hours, days, and weeks of adjusting to a new baby are challenging and can at times be overwhelming. Help from friends and family can be a huge relief to new parents but sometimes well-intentioned friends & family can add to the new parents' stress levels. Here are some simple steps you can follow to be the best visitor a new family can hope for!
A woman's spouse or partner is such an important part of her support team, and often in interviews we get to the topic of dads and doulas. Some dads are eager to attend the prenatal appointments, while others may not be available, or interested in the process at all. Every dad, every man, every partner is different, and as a doula, it's my job through our prenatal appointments to have a good understanding of how the partner will (or will not) participate in labour and delivery.
What is the dad & doula dance?
It's a light hearted term I use with my couples as an ice breaker, particularly when I'm talking to the partners. It is true that in the prenatal appointments a doula spends most of her time interacting with the mom to be, learning about her hopes, fears, and wishes for the pregnancy. Discussing pros and cons of interventions, perhaps working through a birth plan. Sometimes the partners are fully involved in all aspects of this, other times, they are not. However, the reality is, that during those few prenatal visits, I have to try to get a sense of the partner/spouse, what his thoughts and feeling are on the coming labour and subsequent arrival of baby, and what he (and mom to be) want his role to be on labour day.
How do I involve dad at the prenatal meetings?
Well first, I make no assumptions. If I want to learn about dad's feelings regarding the pregnancy and upcoming labour and delivery, I ask him. When I ask mom about her fears and concerns, I ask dad what his are. I also ask him what he hopes his role will be during labour and delivery - and assure him that I am there to empower him as well as mom during this process.
I show partners a number of positions that we may use on labour day. I show them how they can be involved, how we can work together - dad & doula as a team. The partner knows all (ok, maybe not all) of my moves before labour day, and I'll adjust my role during the dance to let him lead, or, I may always lead... it just depends on dad.
It is not my place as a doula to take away from the incredible and intimate moments that a woman and her partner experience in labour. It is my job to hold the space, to fill it in when needed, to empower, guide and to work together with the partner to create the best support team that we can be for mom.
And so we dance.