Prior to having children, I envisioned myself as a working mother. I really enjoyed working and when I became pregnant with my first son, I knew (or thought I knew) that I would have no issues returning to the work following maternity leave. I mean, I’ve seen other parents in the office return from maternity/parental leave. They all seemed to adjust fine; still staying on top of their workload and tasks at home.
I thought I could have it all:
I have an admission to make: Sometimes I still struggle with my son’s premature birth. Although he is three and is doing very well despite his early start, I still struggle with the fact that my pregnancy ended three months early. Day to day, it doesn’t bother me as much as it used to, and like everything, life goes on. I even had a full-term baby boy after a premature delivery, but some days I can’t help but think about what I had went through.
A year ago on #BellLetsTalk 2017 I briefly shared my postpartum experience with my Facebook friends. Carol Anne reached out to me and asked if I would write something for her blog, for this blog, so other mothers who may be struggling would see that they are not alone. That was a year ago and two days ago was #BellLetsTalk 2018. Apparently I find words much easier spoken than written. I've told my story dozens of times, but to actually write it down in detail is much more intimidating. So here it goes, one year later…
When my daughter was around four and a half months old one of the great moms I had befriended in pregnancy asked if I wanted to do a dance class called "Salsa Babies".
My first reaction was to not take the class.
If you received your education in Western Society you may have come across the term “tabula rasa” either in literature, philosophy, religion, psychology or social science classes in secondary or post-secondary school. Tabula Rasa translates from Latin into “Blank Slate”. It is the belief that all humans are born without a single imprint of knowledge on their minds but are instead clean, fresh, empty and ready to be written on. This belief, that originated in the mid-300s B.C., holds that it is a person's experience of the world that wires their brains. In other words, whether our personalities are shaped by “nurture” (experience) or “nature” (genetics), tabula rasa suggests that it is "nurture" that writes on this slate.
But what does this old belief