Our path to becoming parents was a pretty typical one. Met through friends, dated four years, went backpacking, got engaged, got married, and started trying for a baby. Months and months went by and then it finally happened and we jumped for joy (literally). At 10 weeks we lost our baby and our hearts were broken.
Once we started not feeling so scared, I began to plan. I literally tried to plan everything. I was a chronic planner! Right from the first month we tried to conceive I couldn’t help but think “if we get pregnant this month, our baby would be born in [insert month here] and that would be so perfect because [insert super awesome reason to have baby that month here]. Every month it was the same routine. In the end, our baby would be born in August which was awesome and perfect because she would have a summer birthday - just like me!
And so the planning continued...
When discussing how we wanted our birth to go, there was no doubt in my mind that I wanted to go all natural. I used to joke a lot about being loaded with drugs when I had a baby, but I never intended for that to actually happen (but to each their own! You do you, Mama). My Mom and sister were both blessed with beautiful short, all natural (ZERO drugs… how the heck did they do it!?) and I wanted our birth story to be the same.
We had heard about HypnoBirthing through a friend and found “Lifetime of Love Doula Services” online with a quick Google search. I was super intrigued. We did a lot of reading up on the topic and as someone with fairly severe anxiety, this choice seemed like a no brainer. We signed up for classes and boy am I ever glad we did!
The one BIG take away from our time with
After our sweet girl was born, I was the happiest I’d ever been. But there was something that kept popping into my mind: I realized that despite my sheer joy, I was mourning the loss of my “natural” birth. This seemed like such an odd thing to think about when I had this perfect little baby to cuddle, but it was a reality I had to accept.
It took months, but finally I wrapped my mind around the fact that I wasn’t able to have the all natural birth I had dreamed of. The one thing that made this easier to accept was that I know that after all the discussions with all of the doctors and nurses - the caesarean was necessary - it was the safest way to bring our daughter into the world. We asked all the right questions, made sure we felt comfortable with the decision and now have our beautiful little baby.
Thank you to our guest blogger Sarah!
Sarah contributed to our blog in support of Caesarean Awareness month.
Sarah King was born and raised in Caledon, Ontario. She lived in downtown Toronto as she studied and pursued a career in Marketing and Advertising. She has since moved back to Caledon with her husband Kris. They now lead a very happy, low key life in the country with their daughter Annie who is 8 months old.
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