For new parents, specifically for young mothers, it can serve as a great resource for information such as postpartum and pelvic health to sleeping training, feeding and everything in-between. With that being said, I also think there is a troubling side to all this as well, specifically in the realm of mental health in young mothers.
Let me explain.
We only post what others want to see - vacations, a night out or an extravagant purchase. Of course, no one wants to see what I look like after a long day at work, being screamed at by two small kids, or mountains of toys and books scattered in my living room. But the sad reality is, a lot of what we see on social media, isn’t reality…and that’s what people like to see. I used to follow a lot of “mom blogs” with women wearing high-end distressed jeans, perfectly put-together hair with a designer handbag and baby in tow, but in reality, most moms can’t afford that handbag as it’s the equivalent to a month of child care. It was these very images that was sending me the wrong message and once I made that correlation, I realized I was “mom-paring” myself to other people and it just had to stop.
Social Media affects our relationships
This was my wake up call to detox myself from social media.
The effects of social media, particularly in the mental health of adolescents, have become a fascinating topic in the realm of psychology.
Multiple studies have been released over the years highlighting how harmful social media can be on mental health, leading people to feel unwanted, undervalued and alone. It’s no surprise that people feel this way. Now, don’t get me wrong here. I think social media is great and it comes with its advantages such as bringing families closer together, it can be a great resource for support, especially in times in need, and is a great way to share memories with your peers. With that being said, it’s important to separate yourself from what you see online to what reality is. Therefore, I think it’s important to navigate social media in a positive way. If you have experienced these feelings, then I suggest the following:
Just know that if you too felt this way, you aren’t alone. There is much more pressure today than ever before for young mom’s to be perfect, but what I always say is, to find the perfection in imperfection; not every day is going to be “Insta-perfect” or “Insta-ready.” Remember to separate what you see online to what reality is and embrace what is real versus what is imagined.